Polarity is the universal stressor.  If nothing is happening in your life and you seem to be experiencing the same day over and over, you are not using the power of polarity.  If you find that your dreams are not manifesting, you are not utilizing one of your greatest creative tools, the power of polarity. The deliberate application of  this Principle to your life will enhance and energize you and your experiences beyond your wildest dreams..

 Einstein said, “nothing happens until it moves.”  He was referring to the idea that you are surrounded by an unlimited potential that lies dormant until it has a reason to move. Although I am not being presumptuous when I say that this possibility is waiting for you to move it, the question is, “how do you move this possibility into your life?” The means for this migration is given to you in Genesis when God separated the light from the darkness because this was the act that created the Principle of Polarity. The prevalent thought is, that God created night and day in this stage of  creation. Rather than night and day, He created the polarization of energy necessary for light to happen—the  Principle of  Polarity upon which the idea of light, or illumination, is founded. Without this Principle of Polarity, there would be no light, no new understanding.  Without polarity, nothing happens; nothing moves.  

This separation of light from the darkness is a metaphor describing the polarization of energy necessary for the movement of a passive potential into the world of expression  As we said, nothing moves until some kind of force or stress moves it.

You can get an idea of how  polarity works  by a cursory look at how a car battery works. Basically, all car batteries have two terminals, a positive and a negative. In a fully charged battery, the negative terminal has an excess of energy units called electrons, and the positive terminal has a deficiency of these electrons.  Because the universe dislikes imbalance, the drive is for the excess electrons on the negative terminal to flow to the deficiency on the positive terminal to achieve equilibrium. If you have had the unfortunate experience of being the connecting link between these two terminals,  you have experienced first hand the energizing flow of electrons from one terminal to the other.

This deficiency of electrons on one side and excess on the other creates a pressure, or polarity, measured in volts.  Electrical engineers designed the battery so no direct flow through the base of the battery can achieve this balance. What they did is electronically place the car and all its electrical devices between the two terminals. As  electrons flow (through the car) from the negative terminal to the positive terminal, they energize the motor, air conditioner, radio, CD player and all the other paraphernalia in cars these days. The car's alternator, when the engine is running, pumps electrons to the negative side of the battery so that balance is never achieved and the full 12 volts of polarity is maintained so you can continue to burn up all that over-priced gas. 

Okay, so how do you get  polarity to work in your life? Remember that polarity is created because of contrast or imbalance. If  the most exciting thing you do is watch the screen saver on your PC, there is a pretty good chance you need some polarity in your life. Watching the so-called reality shows on television puts money in the  producer's pocket but does nothing for putting polarity in your life.  

You add the power of polarity in your life with ideas—ideas that challenge you and create contrast between where you are and where you want to be or what you want to experience. We live in a world that has emerged out of the polarity created by ideas. If you look around the room that you are in, you will see that everything in it came from an idea. The pen, the computer as well as the software, the clock on the wall, the pictures, television, cell phone, and the watch on your wrist all came from ideas. The building you are in emerged from the idea being put into a blueprint. Even you are an idea that was initiated in the Mind of God.

Every idea knows how to complete itself. Just like any seed, it will grow into maturity if put into the right environment. Ideas mature through your use of the Creative Process.

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Do you ever give thought to why you perceive someone else the way you do? It is not uncommon for people to try to color others in a bad way to cover up their own shortcomings. It's the centuries-old attitude of trying to make yourself look better by putting someone else down. It doesn't actually change anything for the better. It just means you are living in an illusion.  

If someone else punches your buttons, the first place you should look is at YOURSELF. Why do you think they are hard to work with? Could it be because their efforts are constantly reminding you that you are not meeting your obligations? Could it be that you are so identified with your opinions that you can't handle anyone calling any part of them into question? Is it that your ego is more important than the task at hand?

If you happen to wake up one day and realize that all your energy is going into defending your position or into attempting to direct attention away from your failings by attacking the person who is working hard to move forward, even without your help, maybe it's time to step outside your small self. Reassess and refocus your energy on the task you made a commitment to do. This is the only resolution that can produce a win/win for you and those around you.

A friend of mine who was doing a training run for a marathon in December made the mistake of looking back over his shoulder while he was running. Now he has a severely sprained ankle. It reminded me of what I have told people whom I have counseled for years: You can't move forward if you spend all your time looking over your shoulder.  Of course, I was speaking metaphorically, but it seems that it holds true in the physical world as well.

What does it mean to stop looking over your shoulder? Well, if you're in a relationship, it points to mentally comparing the current relationship to past ones, whether they were lousy or wonderful. Either way, it prevents you from being objective about the current situation.

Within a relationship, looking over your shoulder  refers to times when you're in a conflict with your significant other, and instead of dealing with what your feelings are at the moment, you spend all your time pointing out situations in the past to prove your point, a point that may cost you dearly in the relationship. Few relationships survive score-keeping.

Within your own psychology, looking over your shoulder refers to an emotional attachment to your past life experiences. If you are afraid to move forward, whether it's personally or career-wise, because your past experiences have never worked out well, then you are short-changing yourself. You should, of course,  intellectually assess what you may have overlooked in the past or what attitudes may have stood in your way. However, this should be done with the intent of moving forward, not wallowing in the past. This means that you leave the emotions attached to the past in the past.

So what are two important things to remember about this? 1) Make sure that all your thoughts regarding past experiences are viewed in terms of how they can best serve your current desire; 2) Stay clear of the negative emotions (anger, poor-me's, etc.) that are attached to your past experiences. This will not serve you in the present.

We've all met people we would have to classify as paranoid. There is no sacrosanct environment either. You can meet them at work, at church, in volunteer activities; even people you thought were your friends can suddenly start acting paranoid. Knowing this, what are a few of the things that are recognizable as paranoid behavior?

• The person doubts the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of another, convinced that others are deceiving them. This could also be a form of projection where the person is actually uncommitted, disloyal, and untrustworthy themselves , and unable to accept this, they develop a self-created illusion whereby their heinous attitudes are projected onto the other person

• They read hidden meanings into innocent remarks or casual looks of others. They perceive the intentions of others to be in alignment with their own agendas rather than seeing them objectively.

• The person is unforgiving and holds grudges for imagined wrongdoings.

• The person is often controlling and jealous of others. This can be particularly apparent when working in groups where others display talents and abilities this person does not possess.

• They cannot see their role in problems or conflicts and believe they are always right. When cornered by logic or facts, they often deflect to a well-worn passive-aggressive stance of acting as if the other person is out of control or not being professional, notwithstanding their own indefensible position.

How do you deal with people like this? Of course, there is not one answer. It can depend on whether you are unable to make sweeping changes in your environment. If you can, it may be the best thing for your own mental health to walk away and go on with your life. If you can't make that choice, you will have to call into play other options. You can develop a way of interacting with such people.

• When you find yourself being accused, simply say, "I'm sorry you feel that way," and walk away. It may not reduce their paranoia, but it will certainly reduce your stress level.

• When they read hidden meanings into your words, respond with "I'm sorry, how in the world did you come up with that impression?" When they offer their spiel, respond with "Gosh, I never intended that interpretation, and I wasn't trying to punch your buttons. I just didn't know you were so sensitive." Refuse to engage with their paranoia. 
  

• If you have a person who is unforgiving and holding grudges, you just have to walk around them and avoid interaction. You can't change their attitude; you can only give them more ammunition to fuel their imaginings.

• So many people like to be on committees at work and other places. However, it is rare when they are really prepared to do the work involved to complete the task at hand. It is common for one or two people to shoulder the burden. My husband went through a class project  in college that dealt with this very situation, and it proved that most only wanted to come to the meetings, but had no vested interest in doing the necessary work. Consequently, you have to decide to shoulder the burden or walk away. However, if you do shoulder the burden, you should be prepared to be the target of the arrows of those who did not. They attempt to assuage their guilt over doing nothing or their jealousy toward those who did the work by finding fault, nit-picking, and making false accusations.

• When confronted by a passive-aggressive personality, arguing with them is fruitless. Simply cut them off with "Please, spare me the platitudes." Then end the conversation by walking away. Of course, in today's world, such remarks are usually made by email; however, you can still respond the same.

I know you're probably saying at this point that all this seems a bit harsh. I used to think so, too. However, experience has taught me that such people are using you to feed their sickness, and as long as you allow it, they are draining you of your energy. They are energy vampires. They feed off of you. When you realize this, you have a choice: participate with them and get dragged down or find a way to cut off their food supply.

Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, you will never succeed? That someone else is always one step ahead of you, and there’s nothing left for you? These sentiments are more prevalent than you might imagine. They echo in the minds of men, women, and children of all races, all cultures. The vulnerability of the human spirit is impervious to skin color or social mores.

Are these sentiments actually true? If you feel this way right now, no one will be able to convince you otherwise unless ... you don’t want to feel this way. Then it’s possible for the door of your mind to ease open slightly—just enough to check out some new ideas. If you are willing, let’s try a different approach to your life: past, present, and future.

Is There A Reason You Fail?

• Why do you think you have failed to achieve a certain goal?
• Did you set your goal higher than the level for which you were trained?
• Perhaps you were expecting to be awarded a title or position simply because you desired it.
• Is it possible that you don’t believe you’re good enough?

Any of these attitudes could stand in the way of your success. Shooting for a level higher than you can accept for yourself is a setup for failure. Not being willing to invest the emotional energy necessary to manifest your desire can block your desire because your thoughts alone will not produce results. Not believing in yourself is absolutely a deal breaker when it comes to manifesting what you want.

Does the idea that you are the one responsible for the abundance or lack of it in your life offend you? When reading the reasons you might have failed, did you immediately find yourself internally defending your expertise and denying that you would expect to receive something you had not earned? If this describes you, then you are playing games with yourself. You are making excuses. Instead of believing in yourself, your ego is defending itself. It’s a lot easier to feel sorry for yourself than it is to invest the energy necessary to clear out erroneous ways of thinking. Nothing is going to change unless you do, however.

Perhaps, instead,  you found yourself readily agreeing with the declaration that you are probably not good enough. In that case, you are even better at playing the game. The buffers that blind you to your true self are stronger. It may take a little more work to clear out all the dark, muggy recesses of your mind!

So, now that you know that you are responsible for your success, are you going to start feeling sorry for yourself? I hope not. That’s a step in the wrong direction. What you should focus on now is setting a goal with which you can harmonize. In other words, on an intellectual and emotional level, it feels good!

Having Faith In Your Desires

Grabbing the brass ring, reaching a higher level of life, only comes when you have faith in your desires, being willing to invest yourself wholeheartedly in them. You must work to rid yourself of blinders so that your work rises to a level of excellence that cannot be attained through ego alone.

In addition, you must recognize that living organisms  improve with use, unlike non-living organisms. Failure to push forward, in other words, succumbing to frustration, disappointment, resentment, or other negative emotions, weakens you, and, unlike machines, your next initial efforts will not be as efficient as your last. The predominant tendency in living organisms is the principle of syntropy, which is a propensity to achieve higher and higher levels of order and harmony. However, failure to use your creative ability to create the life you want brings you under the influence of entropy or the tendency for your life to disintegrate into expressions that don’t feel so good. 

I don't want to be thought of as a survivor
because you have to continue getting involved in difficult situations
to show off that particular gift, and I'm not interested in doing that anymore.
 ~ Carrie Fisher

I have to say that Carrie Fisher's words resonate with me, and I'm sure they do with many others. If you've spent a lifetime "surviving," you feel that you can meet any challenge. Of course, this means that your mindset, your field of attraction, is about difficult situations—situations where you get to once again test your mettle. True, it can feel satisfying if you do survive, but what is the cumulative effect of all this struggling to survive?

Eventually, you start to wonder if your expectations of life have drifted off course. You start to crave the peace of mind that comes from not expecting everything to be a challenge to overcome. You try to demonstrate a new mindset, but it's difficult because the average of your thoughts is still stuck in being a survivor, and a survivor needs something to survive. Is that a kick in the head, or what?

So, how do you let this mindset go? One possibility is to accept that it is not necessary for you to "give" in every situation. Yes, survivors often get caught up in convincing themselves that they have to give everything they have or they're being exploitative of situations or people. Plus, the push to survive conjures up a tremendous amount of energy, and it has to go somewhere! It is not unusual for a survivor to burn themselves out in certain circumstances because they cannot find a place of harmony among those who feel no great responsibility to give and are perfectly happy to be on the receiving end of life.

Carrie Fisher's advice is good. Make the decision that you're not interested in being the one who is charged with reconciling difficult situations. Don't be the one who steps forward when no one else will. Be the one who chooses to live your life from the wisdom of your heart and to live an authentic life, and look for places where you can give without strings attached. 

“The universe constantly and obediently answers to our conceptions.”  – Henry David Thoreau

The question arises – just what are you asking for? Are you asking for things or are you asking for understanding?

Do you accept that as your understanding grows, so does your consciousness, and that the nature of what you see as possibilities for your life experiences expands?

Do you believe that there are possibilities for you that you can’t see at this moment? Do you believe that it is only through examining the knowledge you have acquired about yourself and life that Your Truth emerges for you? Are you willing to access the love, courage, and wisdom that resides within you so that you can see who you really are and all that you are capable of expressing?

Doing this will change your conception of who you are and what you desire, as well as how you approach bringing it into expression.

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  – Abraham Lincoln

Because you are the architect of your life:

• it is up to you the colors you choose for painting your experiences
• it is up to you how you design the rooms in the house that is your life – whether you choose an open plan, a free-flowing plan, or one that chops your life up into discrete pieces.

Because you are the architect of your life, you determine just how happy you will be with the house you’re building that is your life experience.