When we have feelings, we need to take the time to determine if the feeling matches the experience. In other words, is my feeling a reaction to circumstances that don’t actually exist, or am I actually using my intellect to make a decision about how I am going to feel? It is often difficult to accomplish this on a day-to-day, moment-to-moment basis because we are creatures of habit. In order to move forward, however, we have to break this mindless chain of reaction.
The bottom line is that feelings influence every aspect of our lives – how we deal with ourselves and how we deal with others.