So why is it so hard to create this balance within ourselves, this sweet spot? For one thing, we fail to recognize the consequences of mimicking others and embracing their attitudes as our own. We fail to see the buffers that come into being because we don’t want to see how absolutely ridiculous some of our beliefs about ourselves and the world are. We fail to see that we have turned over the control of our experiences to all those “false personalities” within us that we’ve created for dealing with different situations in our lives so that we feel more comfortable.
Until we accept that the experiences we have—the good, the bad, and yes, the ugly—are all there for a purpose, we will never be able to hold onto this sweet spot within ourselves. Being born onto this earth is not about having a place to live. Earth is a giant classroom. The teachers are not flesh and blood. The teachers are experiences.
We can tell how well we are learning the lessons by the discomfort we feel and how often we return to the same experiences time after time. I never liked the idea that anything less than success was my own fault and that it was a waste of time to blame life, other people or my past experiences. However, accepting the responsibility for your own experiences is a condition you have to face if you are interested in personal change. It takes an extremely brave soul to say, ”I am responsible for the conditions in which I live.” It’s much easier to play the “blame game.”
Until we accept that the experiences we have—the good, the bad, and yes, the ugly—are all there for a purpose, we will never be able to hold onto this sweet spot within ourselves. Being born onto this earth is not about having a place to live. Earth is a giant classroom. The teachers are not flesh and blood. The teachers are experiences.
We can tell how well we are learning the lessons by the discomfort we feel and how often we return to the same experiences time after time. I never liked the idea that anything less than success was my own fault and that it was a waste of time to blame life, other people or my past experiences. However, accepting the responsibility for your own experiences is a condition you have to face if you are interested in personal change. It takes an extremely brave soul to say, ”I am responsible for the conditions in which I live.” It’s much easier to play the “blame game.”