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Why Bother?

3/29/2015

Why should we try to find this sweet spot? When we follow the path where we look for our answers in the world, it keeps us from expressing ourselves fully. As Teilhard said, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” When we fall victim to our conditioning, we operate without full awareness of what we do or how we feel about what we do. We mimic those around us and live our lives through all the roles we’ve taken on during our lifetime to fulfill our needs. If we continue to do this, we have turned everything on its head—we have become human beings trying to have a spiritual experience.

Every experience in your life and mind is the result of harmonizing vibrations. Whatever state of mind I possess, whatever level of harmony or disharmony I possess, determines the kinds of experiences I draw to myself. If you recognize this, you can see why it is so important for you to seek this sweet spot within yourself. It is what generates the quality of your world.

Let's Define "Sweet Spot"

3/25/2015

Before we go any further, let's define this “sweet spot” I keep mentioning. To me, this sweet spot within myself is when my thoughts and my feelings are in complete harmony and partnering for my highest good. This is a gift from God – the ability to come into this sweet spot and create that which is my highest good.

We lose this sweet spot because we don’t have the awareness when we’re small to say no to the influences of those around us. Consequently, we condition ourselves to look for answers in the world. Of course, the answer to finding that sweet spot, that harmony between our thoughts and feelings that makes us feel whole, can’t be found in the world. This starts a vicious cycle for most people. They hustle to find the “right” relationship or the “right” job, and for a little while, they think they’ve found it. But the world can never bring your mind and heart together. So they drop that relationship or that job and hustle to find another.

It is a glorious moment when a person recognizes that they need to look within if they are going to find the right relationship or job because it’s only when we create harmony within our thoughts and feelings that we will succeed in finding those things we seek in the outer. In other words, we have to take responsibility for the change necessary to feel happy.

A Scary Idea

3/22/2015

Here is a scary idea. The drive to find the right relationship or the right experience is the hidden desire to find the sweet spot within yourself, which I mentioned in an earlier post. So don’t waste your time looking “out there.” It is a feeling that does not spill from any experience or any relationship out in the world. Here is something that might be hard for you to get their mind around. The only purpose outer relationships or experiences serve is to act like teasers to keep you refining the creative power you have within yourself. This relationship you forge within yourself is the most important relationship because it is like having a partner who can bring you anything you desire and I do mean ANYTHING!

Troubled Relationships

3/18/2015

When I see people in a troubled relationship, they seldom see that this problem is a gift for them. Actually, it is more accurate to say that the trouble they are having is designed to be an emotional shock so that they wake up to the relationship they have with themselves. Pain is usually the only way to wake us up to the wisdom that lies hidden within.

How many people are willing to take problems as the shock they need to wake up? It is more likely for them to see such difficulties as bad luck or as an excuse to whine or blame the experience on being in the wrong place at the wrong time. The result is that the same experience or something like it enters their lives over and over.

Each person is an attracting machine. All experiences, both good and bad, are waiting for someone to choose them. So, calling earth the planet of lesson is not such a bad idea. We came here to take responsibility for what we choose. Life on this planet of lesson is like lifting weights. Being able to stand up under the weight of your bad experiences is the way you grow into the emotional strength you need to access better life experiences.

Your bad experiences are the signals that some thoughts or behaviors need to be changed. Bad experiences come from either your conditioning (your trained machine) or your inability to see them as a signal that you need to make a change of some kind. Either way you are faced with a choice. Choose to see what you need to do to effect change or keep whining.

I think that it is important to keep in mind that we live on the planet of lesson. The lessons are about recognizing how to use our pain to change so that we can attract better experiences in all areas of our lives, particularly in our choice of partners.

Staying On Track

3/15/2015

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You are walking around in a creative energy that does not care if it helps or hurts you.

It is an intelligent energy that offers you pain to let you know how far off the creative track you are.

This is the only way this potential can get your attention and put you back on track. So give up the idea that you are a victim or are being punished. The quality of your relationships will mirror back to you how off track you are.

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Are You Really A Nice Person?

3/11/2015

Most of us like to think of ourselves as a nice person. After all, we never deliberately harm anyone else. Bad feelings we have about other people are ignored or kept deeply hidden within ourselves. What's the lesson in this for us because this is the planet of lesson? The lesson is to remember that the feelings we have about other people are like magnets because they have an attracting power. What does this mean? It means that those nasty feelings are busy attracting people and experiences into our lives that will resonate with those nasty feelings we're harboring.

Your Secret Partners

3/8/2015

Regardless of how much people might say they hate or love partnerships of any kind, they are in a bunch of them their entire lives. Most of these partners are not out in the world. They look back at you every time you look in the mirror. You get out of bed with them in the morning, and they are still with you when you crawl into bed at night.

What is even scarier is that you don’t notice how sneaky they are and how much their voices influence your life because they look and sound just like you. Even when you look in the mirror you don’t see them. Why should you? All you see is you looking back at you. You’ve gotten so used to them, you no longer notice when they start making decisions for you and acting as you.

The only way to get rid of them is to catch them in action and give them a name. This means you have to make a conscious effort to recognize these sub-personalities within you. By calling your attention to them, you can stop them. You can stop being angry at the same things over and over, not even really understanding why you're having such feelings.

Why Marriage Can Be Important

3/4/2015

Life is a process. Marriage is intended to be part of the process. However, no one quantum leaps into a perfect understanding of relationships of any kind. As long as you are in this human experience, you’re always going to be on a journey of learning. So, don’t get so up tight. Remember that you are a creative being. You have the luxury of taking your life one day at a time.

With marriage we have the advantage of being in a committed relationship. In other words, one of us is not going to fly the coop without effort. Friends can come and go easily—married partners not so much. We can get mad at each other, and because it’s not so easy to walk away, we get over it. The question is do we learn from it?

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