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Chase The Dark Away

5/11/2015

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Do you have days when you think the world is out to get you? Days when you feel that you're not quite smart enough or pretty enough to run with the champions? Days when you feel fat because your clothes just don't hang right? Days when you feel like giving up?

It hurts, doesn't it? I mean, you really suffer emotional pain on days like those. Of course, I can tell you that a lot of your suffering is caused by vanity, pride, fear, anger – all those 900 lb gorillas that hang around  waiting to leap into action. The more subtle ways you suffer is by constantly struggling to fit in physically, intellectually, financially, and socially.

What would you say if I told you that in order to enjoy your life that you're going to have to sacrifice your suffering? That's right! You're going to have to give it up. If you keep holding onto these ridiculous attitudes toward yourself, your life will always be miserable.

There are many ways to sacrifice your suffering. It doesn't happen overnight. You have to do the work. You always have to do the work. Unfortunately, no one else is going to do it for you. No one else could do it for you even if they wanted to!

This is the planet of free choice. You get to decide if you want to entertain all these negative attitudes or not. When you catch yourself going down that path, STOP and choose to think better thoughts about yourself and your world. Like I said, it won’t happen overnight, but like any attempt to do something different, consistency will cause it to eventually shift into a habit.

Once you learn how to turn the spotlight on your suffering ONLY to glean the greatest benefit from the experience, you will always be able to let go of your negative attitudes. The light will chase the dark away.


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The Value of Resistance

5/6/2015

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I feel  that a person’s life is a great personal and unique experiment.  The experiment is this: how many of the harmful ideas I have accumulated can I eliminate, and how many of the greater ideas can I remember and use?    

The greatest difficulty in accomplishing this is accepting that life on earth is a place to learn the value of resistance, not just a place to whine about it.   

I’ve never liked  the idea of resistance anymore than anyone else does. I have to admit, however, that most of the improvements in my life have come because I finally saw resistance not as a wall, but as a door. It gives us the opportunity to embrace the power we have to choose what we experience.

Accepting the truth of what I just said was not easy or fast. So, don’t expect overnight change to occur in your life. Chip away at the resistance whenever you can. All of us are robotic most of the time, doing the same things over and over with little investment of thought, but it is in those moments of awareness that we can make inroads. It takes time and dedication to increase our awareness, and the greatest power we have is to not give up.


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How Do Our Experiences Influence Our Choices?

4/29/2015

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How do our experiences influence our choices? Many of our choices are made because we tend to choose what is familiar rather than meet a new challenge. Sometimes our experiences, such as growing up in an alcoholic family, can push us to make choices that will take us as far away from that experience as we can get. Sometimes we tried to meet a challenge, and we were unsuccessful. Consequently, we are afraid to take that path again.

Sometimes we make choices in order to re-experience the past. This can be good or bad, depending on the type of experience. For instance, drugs can be an experience that was temporarily enjoyable, but it is not necessarily a wise decision to go back there. Sometimes we have experiences that affirm our talents and abilities, and we make choices to continue along that path.

Whether we like it or not, our past experiences do influence our choices. So, do we just go along with the program or do we choose to be Conscious Creators of our lives? That is everyone’s personal choice. It is your journey. You have to be aware of WHY you’re making the choices you are.


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How About TheĀ  Crazies in Your Life?

4/22/2015

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Is there someone in your life driving you crazy? Someone who makes you cringe at the sight of them? You might even visualize all the bad things you would like to see happen to them. You just thought of someone – didn't you? So what do you do about this?

The way I see it, you can wait for them to change - which might mean waiting until hell freezes over  - or you can change the way you think about them. I believe your best odds lie in changing the way you think about them. Do you agree? 

I want to share a story with you that a lady told me. She was at war with an office full of people she described as mean, back-stabbing, lying, tattle-tales  (and some other words that I can't say here). The atmosphere was keeping her awake at night, and she was barely able to force herself to go to work. 

Out of desperation and self-preservation, she made a decision that she was no longer going to participate in the pettiness. When she looked into their eyes, she refused to see them as their nasty traits, but instead, she chose to see them for who she believed they really were under all that anger and pettiness. She also decided to be helpful to others in spite of the fact that she received no thanks. Gradually things changed. People in her office started smiling at each other. The lines drawn between responsibilities began to disappear, and lo and behold, they started helping each other! She told me that the office was transformed in just four months.

Let me ask you — what was the biggest change that happened—the one she valued the most? You got it! The change that had happened in her. She said, "I now know that the power I have to change our world starts with my willingness to change what is going on in me." In spite of it all, she figured out that she could enjoy her life. ­­We all can.
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Who Is Speaking Now?

4/12/2015

 
You are never alone because the power to live a better, more prosperous life is staring back at you from a mirror. It’s true that you live in one body, but you have attitudes within that are in a constant  battle to speak through your mouth. To add more interest to the mix, they each have their own idea of what’s right and what’s wrong. This is why if you find yourself emotionally reacting to what someone else says, before you speak, make sure you know which attitude is trying to speak through your mouth.

Anger Is A Thief

4/8/2015

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Anger needs energy just like any negative feeling. It has helped me to realize that any time I give myself over to anger, I feed it. It does not need a well-thought-out reason to go into action. Why? Because it seems like the right way to feel at the time. It is always good to remember that anger is a learned emotion, and life is all about unlearning the bad side of feelings so that the good waiting in the wings can take their place. It is also good to remember that anger knows what it needs to protect its existence.

The problem is that anger blocks from us our intelligence. It steals from us the time and energy we have to make intelligent and meaningful choices. People carry anger in their emotional nature, and this anger looks for reasons to express itself. Consequently, circumstances can be an excuse for anger to be fed.

Anger is more of a habit, which is why it does not need well-thought-out reasons to ignite it. Anger is a borrowed emotional habit that is fed every time we give ourselves over to it. This idea is one that few, if any, are willing to consider. In other words, anger works with negative feelings to avoid the one thing we came to this earth to do—learn from our mistakes. We came here to learn how to utilize our God-given wisdom to choose how we are going to feel instead of being a mindless robot, subject to the forces of habit.  

This learned emotion called anger steals from us the one thing that should have the most value—the awareness necessary to see the power we have to create our lives and not be its victims.



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Feelings Influence Every Aspect Of Our Lives

4/7/2015

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What are feelings? Feelings are emotions that define our reactions to and expectations of ourselves and the world. Negative feelings are usually borrowed so they have no real foundation, but we tend to trust in them nonetheless because they are familiar. Feelings (emotions) are necessary for manifestation. Therefore, what we feel, coupled with what we think is the determinant for our experiences.

When we have feelings, we need to take the time to determine if the feeling matches the experience. In other words, is my feeling a reaction to circumstances that don’t actually exist, or am I actually using my intellect to make a decision about how I am going to feel? It is often difficult to accomplish this on a day-to-day, moment-to-moment basis because we are creatures of habit. In order to move forward, however, we have to break this mindless chain of reaction.

The bottom line is that feelings influence every aspect of our lives – how we deal with ourselves and how we deal with others.

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Recognizing My Unique Path

4/5/2015

 
What I overlooked for so long was that I always had the key that opened the door to the sweet spot, but It was like my nose—so close that I looked right past it. I kept listening to how other people found theirs. Selling their experiences may have made them rich, but it only led to disappointment for me. The way they thought and felt was unique and special to them. All the training and education in the world could not create their sweet spot in me! You are different than I am. You have unique mental and physical processes that are unique to you. Each of us is different, and so the method that is designed to make you or me successful requires our own uniqueness to make it work. We have to go through our own process, our own discipline, to find our sweet spot. Perhaps the greatest pipe dream is thinking we can use someone else’s mental and emotional work to show us the path to success. It sounds great until we try to put it into practice.

It almost sounds like I’m saying that listening to what others say about spiritual growth is a waste of time, but I’m not. I am simply saying that attempts at self-improvement must be filtered through your own thoughts and feelings in order to establish the harmony that reaches for your highest good.

Finding the sweet spot within yourself is the key to better relationships and experiences in your life. Whatever your relationship with yourself, it is the cloth from which the pattern of your life is cut. Your life will mirror back to you the relationship you have with yourself. If you believe yourself to be inferior, you will draw to you people and experiences to support this. This is true for every attitude you have  toward yourself. So, if you want to experience Life’s Sweet Spot, that place that gives you joy each and every day as you wake and go about your business, start by finding that sweet spot, that place of harmony, within yourself.

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